3 Hot Tips How to Stay Cool, Calm and Collected

This is a question I get asked a lot as a mindset coach. And we all know people who lost their cool more or less often and maybe we know them even intimately.

This is such a hot topic that I’m going to talk about this in more depth in one of my coming-up, free teleseminars. So stay tuned.

Congratulations! Well done. Awareness is the first big step. Let me share my proven 3 hot tips how to stay calm. Would that be worth while continuing reading? I bet it would.

Tip #1 How to stay calm

When you catch yourself after you have been anything else than cool, calm and collected reflect back what behaviour you didn’t like and what was not ecological – that means save for yourself, others and the planet. Imagine how you would have liked to behave or react. Run through the scene in your mind’s eye and see yourself behaving differently – the way you would have liked to act. If you need to apologize to someone do so. This creates another behavioural pathway - better late than never. And the more often you do this the better.

Tip #2 How to stay calm

When you catch yourself while you are not cool, calm and collected change how you hold yourself immediately. If you are slumped down – stand straight. If you feel tension in your body - relax and shake it out. And if you don’t know how you hold yourself just “Take a jump to the left” as they say in the film “The Rocky Horror Picture Show”. I guarantee you hold yourself differently immediately.

Tip #3 How to stay calm

Breath! Take a couple of deep breaths. When we lose our cool usually our emotions run high and our breathing becomes fast and shallow. Breathing deeply changes our state and allows us to bring back the logic which allows us to make conscious choices instead of freaking out. 

And if someone else loses their calm?

I still do the same three things mentioned above. And to distract them I tend to ask them a totally unrelated question in my sweetest voice and with a warm smile on my face. Something along the lines of “What did you have for breakfast this morning?” or “Did you manage to go to the Gym yesterday?” Thus usually forces them to remember and that means they start thinking again. At that stage I usually finish the conversation and move any discussion which needs to be continued to a later time in the day – walking away with my shoulders back, a smile on my face breathing deeply.

Anger and frustration can build up over time and when it reaches the tipping point it can flare up in any situation without any warning signs. Build-up anger can be as old as people’s age. And Yes, we don’t have to carry it with us around. Yes, we can “lose” anger and Yes, we can learn new strategies to stay cool, calm and collected. Using NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) techniques this can be done in only a few session – as all my clients will confirm - changing lives forever for good.

To Your Success
Elisabeth Peischl

www.CanDoResultsCoaching.com